Do all the things! Or not?

Well, here we are almost two months into 2018! This is the time of year when we are all but lost when it comes to our big changes we had hoped for in the new year. I'm guilty of this as well! I have a bad habit of wanting to get so many things right that it causes me to have a mental breakdown. No joke! The anti-anxiety meds have been flowing like candy lately...Ok, maybe that's a little stretch but you get the idea.

Needless to say, my 'resolutions' are somewhere between DOA (dead on arrival) and still searching for a pulse. This is the time where we can do a few things to get back on track. We can reassess our goals and see if they are realistic. We can cut some things loose (more on this!). Or we can start fresh with new goals to get us excited and back on track.

Only you can decide the best approach for you but I'm going to share a little bit of what I'm trying to implement.

So as women especially, and definitely moms too, we live in a society where we are expected to be busy. It's like we aren't as useful to society if we aren't running to work, running to our kids activities at mach speeds, volunteer of the year, serving in the community, pinterest winning, yada yada yada...You get my point. So this is what I am going to do and I invite you to join me:

B-R-E-A-T-H-E P-A-U-S-E BREATHE AGAIN!

Ok, everybody good? Now, let's dig in....

I have a lot of things on my plate (as you all do, I know), such as being a wife, mom, student, business owner, sunday school teacher, volunteer at my kids's school and their sporting events, and whatever else gets thrown at me during the week. Don't get me wrong, I love all these things! But I've had to ask myself lately, "what is the cost?" I don't mean monetarily of course. How is this affecting your mental health? I know for me, it's causing extreme anxiety, fatigue, moodiness, comparison, just to name a few...and guess what? It doesn't make me happy! For you, it may look different. I look at lots of other moms and think "how do they handle it all?" But then it occurred to me: "Are they really handling it all? I mean really?" I wonder what it's like when they get home from their crazy days? Do they fall onto the couch and have nothing left for their family because they've expended all their energy on others? I know I feel like this. A lot.

So here's the thing...I AM NOT SUPERMOM! Nor do I want to be. I am trying to be a Godly wife, mother, and follower of Christ first and foremost. So what do I have to do to realign my priorities? I've had to back away from some things...It's a slow process but I'm giving myself grace to take care of me first, so I can take care of others better. Maybe it's slowing down with my business? Maybe it's not returning to school next semester? Maybe it's taking time for myself alone to drink a hot coffee and write (like I'm doing right now) and not feeling guilty about it. Here's what I know...time is something we never get back. I don't want to look back and think "I wish I didn't put so many other things in front of my God and my family."

So here is a little challenge...Don't worry about climbing the corporate latter, don't worry about being the volunteer at every event you are involved in, don't worry about making more money to have more stuff. Be content where God has planted you and grow where you are! Yes, have dreams and goals, but don't be sorry that you put all those things in front of the things that really matter. And if you are succeeding as Supermom? Way to go! You are a better woman than I!

Much love to you all!

D